THE DOMINANT MASTER MUST BE AWARE OF HIMSELF.
Usually making sure to handle your tools yourself first by feeling how the rope makes knots when tied to your arm or wrists, for example, before applying untested rope to your partner during the game can also help. But we’ve seen potential Dominants who think that all you need to be dominant is yelling or threatening your partner and having equipment like chains or a rope or a gag. We’ve all read some trashy novel that suggested that chains and cable ties are a good thing. No, this is not the case. And an experienced Dom knows it. He will be familiar and comfortable with his toys and tools. They will observe their submissives and act on whatever makes them comfortable. Dominants can yell at their partners, sure, but only within the limits that the partners have set together. This goes for faults as well as for Dominants who know…
Try out sadomasochism!
Sadomasochism is a practice that is undoubtedly frightening because it refers to notions of sadism. Yet there is no such thing as sadism, at least in the sense of violence and cruelty. Two partners who practice sadomasochism play together in relationships of domination and submission. However, these games are part of the essential fantasies. Everyone more or less wants to feel submissive or on the contrary, wants to dominate their partner at one time or another. However, these fantasies should be handled with caution. Moreover, hard sadomasochism, which encompasses particular practices rather distant from Eros, ultimately concerns only a very small minority of people. On the other hand, so-called soft sadomasochism can be practiced by all couples who have sexual complicity. On the condition of considering it as an erotic game. For example, a little spanking can cause real arousal. Like a bite in the neck or scratches in the…
How to get started with BDSM gently and without risk?
So what should we pay special attention to? Safety first! BDSM is quite an invasive activity, but if you practice it wisely, it shouldn’t cause any damage. It is important that the partner with whom we want to explore new experiences is someone we know and trust. At first, you should start with a conversation. Together, determine which practices are of particular interest to you, which ones can be authorized, and set a hard limit that you do not want to exceed. It is also a good idea to establish a security password, although it is not essential. Also, remember that communication is very important when playing games. Both the submissive party and the dominant party should think, but it is the dominant person who bears the most responsibility and who should think for both.The security password is a word we say when we have had enough Remember to hydrate…
THE PITFALLS TO AVOID WHEN YOU WANT TO BECOME A MASTER IN BDSM.
One of the “pitfalls” associated with being dominant in a relationship (which becomes a common pitfall for a novice Dom) is putting too much emphasis on expectations and fantasies, without stopping to consult or even pay attention to the other person. We think “Dominant” and immediately fantasize about power and control and the exercise of those desires, without acknowledging the reality: we are not the only person here, we are not a real master or a real kidnapper or anything else, but somehow it can get lost and we assume that “Dominant” means just that, and the other person is just a replaceable prop that we let’s play. And then, to make matters worse, we have the potential to get angry when said person expresses an objection, in this case a perfectly reasonable, no, important gesture and we react as such.FIRST LESSON: THE DOMINANT IS NOT (REALLY) RESPONSIBLE It doesn’t…
How To Become A BDSM Master?
In the BDSM community, becoming a true dominant master is a fairly common fantasy. However, achieving this fantasy is often much more difficult than you might imagine. Not only does it take a genuine desire for control, but it also takes a number of other characteristics, some of which may surprise you. So, do you have what it takes to be a Dominant? Let’s find out now.THE MAIN QUALITIES OF A BDSM MASTER: SELF AFFIRMATION This is perhaps one of the most obvious qualities that any Dominant should possess. In fact, assertiveness is an absolute necessity. To be a good Dominant, you need to know what you want and not be afraid to express those desires to your submissives. Now is not the time to be polite, so forget what your mom taught you and put the “please” and “thank you” aside. Instead, give concise orders to get your point…
What do I need to get started with soft SM?
No need to show a vivid imagination (although that can help spice up the game even more!). A way to tie the hands of your playmate is a good start to get into soft sadomasochism: a scarf, a belt, a tie, a pair of handcuffs … With whom to practice soft SM?A (somewhat) athletic partner. Having your hands tied casually makes your muscles work: beware of stiffness the next day. With a scarf, belt, or another tie, tie both hands of your partner. Is he standing or lying down? Instead, cross his hands in front: the posture will be less uncomfortable for him. Is he sitting or kneeling? Tie his hands behind his back, a BDSM position much sexier to watch! No need to tie a triple slipknot: the idea is rather that your partner cannot come off easily, but that you also have no trouble releasing them when needed.…
Sadomasochism, when the pain becomes a pleasure
Sadomasochism, when the pain becomes a pleasureSadomasochism is a sexual practice in which partners inflict pain and humiliation on themselves in order to achieve pleasure and enjoyment. Still taboo today despite the evolution of our contemporary societies, sadomasochism attracts as much as it questions. If the experience sharpens your senses, follow the guide.What is sadomasochism?Sadomasochism is to deliver between consenting adults in sexual games and coded based on the pain and humiliation. Establishing a relationship between dominant and dominated, sadomasochism is a source of extreme pleasure for its followers. It refers to two concepts: Sadism: it is the fact of making your partner suffer in order to arouse excitement. It takes its name from the famous Marquis de Sade whose libertine writings evoking the pleasure felt in afflicting pain had caused a scandal in the 18th century.Masochism: the follower of masochism needs to suffer in order to access pleasure. The…
BDSM in your bedroom?
In general, most people limit themselves to milder versions of BDSM, also known as soft BDSM or soft BDSM. In terms of punishment and addiction, that’s a good thing: the risks are much lower when you keep the BDSM soft. Soft-BDSM is not an inferior form of BDSM. It is not necessary to be dressed in leather to practice BDSM. On the contrary. We are convinced that people have more BDSM aspects in their sex life than you might think. What to think, for example, of a man who orders his partner to give him a blowjob? Or the woman who pushes the man down and crawls over him? Or the man who grabs his wife by the hair during intercourse, or who rests his hands on the bed? Or the woman who puts her long fingernails behind her partner’s back? When deciding to play with pain and/or power in…
How to start a BDSM relationship?
How to start a BDSM relationship?Feeling drawn to BDSM, but don’t know where to start? This page is made for you. After answering many readers, I will put here some of the most asked questions and provide my answers. If you have other questions come on the forum or contact me via this form. I will often refer to our game for submissive, not necessarily because I think it is the best solution but because of the advice I give I have incorporated it into our game.How to train a submissive! This page will evolve gradually, I lack the time to put it all of a sudden. It can be applied regardless of the gender of the dominant person and the submissive person. In order to avoid heaviness in the text, I will not systematically put all the versions of “the”; “The” “submissive” dominating, etc.What are we talking about exactly?BDSM…
Practical advice to start and try BDSM sex
Anyone who has watched or even heard of the 50 Shades of Gray book and movie should more or less know what BDSM is. The story is quite specific and not everyone will appreciate it, but there is no denying that it made the idea famous and gave women an excuse to experiment with BDSM. However, if someone has never encountered the term BDSM in their life and is having a hard time deciphering this abbreviation, here is its meaning: Bondage & Discipline: physical constraints and disciplineDomination and submissionSadism and masochism – inflicting and enduring pain, humiliationWho Can Try BDSM?Anyone who sees something interesting and potentially enjoyable in this way of playing sexually! It is always worth a try. It is best to start slowly and calmly. Don’t do it all at the same time. First of all, it is enough to tie up the arms and/or legs. Then we…